My EFT Journey: A Journey of Healing and Growth

I love celebrating milestones, and this year marks the 20th anniversary of my journey with EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique). It was a profound gift—one that I will forever cherish with gratitude.

It all began in the summer of 2004. My family and I were in Istanbul for our summer vacation when my dear friend, Gulcan Arpacioglu  told me she had a special gift for me. She said, “But you’ll need to come to my home and spend the entire day here.” Intrigued, I agreed, not knowing what to expect. It turns out her gift  was an EFT workshop. EFT/Tapping is a simple and effective technique administered by gently tapping the acupuncture points to transform negative emotions like fear, worry, anxiety, depression.

Leaving my kids with my mom for the day was a bit of a challenge, but I reminded myself that’s exactly what grandmas are for. So, off I went to Gulcan’s house, unaware how EFT could impact my life. That day, I witnessed incredible transformations. I saw such profound healing during the workshop that I was left in awe.

One particular participant had a deep-seated phobia of dogs. She couldn’t even tolerate the idea of being in the same room with a dog. However, Gulcan  had Peanut then. By the end of the day, to my amazement, I watched this woman petting Peanut with a sense of calm that seemed unimaginable just hours earlier. Many radical healings happened that day, including one of my own; with an awareness that shed light on some of my childhood trauma. 

I had been a skinny child until the third grade, when I started gaining weight and remained on the chubbier side throughout my life. During the workshop, a powerful realization hit me. My emotional eating began when I was eight years old, the same year I moved in with my dad and stepmother after a seven-year custody battle.

My stepmother had a son who was 13 at the time—a growing teenager with a big appetite. I noticed how she often praised him for his eating, which I subconsciously interpreted as love and acceptance. That summer, in an effort to gain her approval, I began competing with my step-brother to eat as much as he did. That’s when my unhealthy relationship with food started.
This insight felt like a light bulb moment. For the first time, I saw how my childhood experiences had shaped my behaviors, and I felt an immediate shift to my attitude toward food.

Over the next few years, I used EFT sporadically for myself and my family. But in early 2015, life threw me another twist: a cancer diagnosis. Determined to heal, I sought to uncover the emotional roots of my illness. Gulcan once again came to my rescue, guiding me through hours of EFT therapy. Together, we unearthed layers of childhood trauma, limiting beliefs, unhealthy relationship patterns, and even past life karma.

It was like windows opening, allowing light to illuminate my darkest corners. EFT became my lifeline during that challenging period, and I’m not sure how I would have survived without it.

EFT  had such a transformative impact on my life that  I began sharing  it with  my family and friends and  eventually teaching it at Cancer Support Community and  sharing it at various healthy living Expos. 

Although I don’t practice EFT professionally,I often use it to raise funds for meaningful causes, including earthquake relief efforts. Most recently, I’ve contributed to supporting amputee children who were impacted by the February 6, 2022 Earthquake.

I owe a heartfelt thank-you to Gulcan. for introducing me to EFT, for being a role model, a guiding light, and for unlocking my healing potential.
Today, EFT is more popular than ever. There are even apps like The Tapping Solution to make it accessible. If you’d like to explore it, I highly recommend these websites:

www.emofree.com (the official site by EFT founder Gary Craig)
www.eftinternational.com
www.thetappingsolution.com

So, the next time you’re feeling emotionally stuck, give EFT a try. You just might find the healing and clarity you’ve been searching for.

Here are few  EFT testimonials from my friends: 
When I first heard about the EFT technique I was a bit skeptical but I still decided to give it a try because of all the positive experiences my friends had with Zeynep. I am very glad I did. It has benefited me in a way I had never expected and I saw this change incredibly fast, in only one session. If you have some fears or worries in life, you will definitely be very happy with the EFT technique. I highly recommend Zeynep. She is not only great at what she does, she also is an incredible human being. You will feel her positive vibes the moment you meet her.  B.C

Prior to my first experience with EFT session with Zeynep, I had no idea what to expect. After the session, which lasted about an hour, I realized how much my feelings/issues had been suppressed in my psyche since my childhood, and how it affected my well-being as an adult up to this moment in time. I truly believe that Zeynep is the ideal mentor for anyone that wishes to identify their burden within and discover a way to relieve their inner emotional stress. The success of our first meeting allowed me to comprehend Zeynep’s ability to understand the psychological aspect to build an emotional ’roadmap’ during the session, by posing certain questions before the session, and to use key words during, to venture deeper into the subconscious mind to discover the origin of the fear and give you the strength to find a release mechanism. Thank you Zeynep!  A.K

I always thought that EFT is a very interesting and intriguing method for healing trauma and other subconscious disorders. Zeynep was the first to apply this technique on me. During the session, I had emotional outbursts which led to the release of an extensive emotional burden. I did not experience any adverse events or negative thoughts during or after the session. I would definitely recommend these sessions for people who are not able to outroot their unconscious/ undiagnosed fears, traumas, and dysthymia. H.E

EFT is a very simple and effective method to release difficult emotions or suppressed feelings. You can implement this technique by yourself but I believe that it is very helpful if you do this together with an expert, especially in the beginning. Zeynep is always a solid support to me as well as being a very caring soul. The EFT session which we did together was so powerful, the suppressed feeling of fear which was with me for long years was completely gone in one session. I highly recommend her. E.K.

I’ve heard about the EFT tapping but never tried it before, until Zeynep kindly offered to introduce it to me. I appreciate how Zeynep easily connects, approaches with compassion and respect, and allows space while working on deep negative emotions. I’m forever grateful and highly recommend her services. B.H

Göbekli Tepe , Totem Poles and possible common ancestors...

 I had a light bulb moment when I saw a totem pole for the first time in my life up close in Alaska. Of course, I have seen pictures of totem poles before but seeing them in person has made an impact on me and prompted me to compare them to stone totems in Göbekli Tepe. The resemblance was so striking and obvious.

Could the indigenous people in Northwest Coast of North America and Göbekli Tepe might have shared common ancestors?

Totem poles in the Northwest coast of America are carved from the trunks of large trees, especially the Red Cedar. While the oldest totem poles we know, are from the 19th century, it has been suggested that this tradition has existed since long before then. Totem poles are rich in symbolism, and used for a variety of purposes.

Totem Heritage Center, Ketchikan, Alaska

There are several reasons to raise a totem pole. One of the most common functions is to honor the dead. At one time, totem poles are used to keep the ashes of the deceased person. There used to be a niche in the pole to hold the ashes of the deceased.These poles usually also had the carvings of the crest symbols  of the deceased. The purpose  was to commemorate the life of the deceased and affirm the lineage and history of the descendants.
After the contact and missionary activities of the westerners in the mid-1800’s, the cremation practice was replaced with burial but the memorial poles are continued to be placed near the clan house of the deceased or in a designated area near their village. Especially if a chief has passed away, the new chief would raise a totem in his honor.  The pole would typically commemorate the lineage of the dead chief. 

Ensign Albert Niblack of the US Navy who was stationed in Alaska between 1885-87 , has made observations of mortuary practices observed in the Northwest coast. Below, I’ve attached some pictures from his book. 

Now, let’s go halfway around the world to Gobeklitepe. Scientists agree that Gobeklitepe is somehow related to death and a ritual for transition to death.  (more for Gobeklitepe and Death, pls. refer to my article https://reikinewsletter.blogspot.com/2022/12/gobekli-tepe-and-ancestral-reverance.html)

Göbekli Tepe is a 12,000 year old ritual area and cult center in Southeast Turkey, where T-shaped pillars in the center of the ritual area are surrounded with 12 other smaller stones. Discovery of Göbekli Tepe has changed our understanding of evolution of civilization forever and proved that our ancestors were much more capable than we’ve imagined.

From my archive at Sanli Urfa Museum, Turkey

In 2009, a large sculpture was discovered in Göbekli Tepe and excavated the next year. The sculpture was 1.92 mt length, with a diameter of 30 cm, weighing 500 kgs, where 10 people struggled to lift and carry it. The sculpture features three main figures one above another. The top part of the column is a predator, the front part of the head is not visible, but a short neck, arms and hands are visible. The arms are holding another head, probably a human. Also large snakes are visible, below the heads of snakes, possibly structures of legs of the upper human body. This sculpture is not the only one, similar totem pole-like sculptures were discovered some 20 years ago in Nevali Cori, only 20 miles away from Göbekli Tepe. 

Archeologists agree that this sculpture found in Göbekli Tepe and other nearby locations were reminiscent of totem poles of Northwest Coast erected by indigenous people of North America. 

To assert this similarity, we need more information on where Göbekli Tepe people have come from and where they brought this tradition of building 3 dimensional, stone sculptures/poles from.

Even though many cultures around the world have totem poles, the oldest monumental wooden sculpture known today, the Shigir idol, was carved shortly after the last Ice Age, approximately 12.000 years ago and found in Russia (middle Ural mountains, near Kirovgrad) in 1890 .

Just like in Göbekli Tepe, when this first radiocarbon dating was carried out, scholars suggested that the dating was incorrect, because they believed that the hunter-gatherers who inhabited the area 9,500 years ago would not have been capable of crafting such a massive object. A later analysis gave an age of 11,500 years! 

Shigir Idol is displayed in Sverdlovsk Museum in Yekaterinburg, Russia.

                                                                    Image source: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shigir_Idol

The top portion of the Shigir totem pole, is a head with a face with eyes, nose, and mouth. The body is flat and rectangular. Horizontal lines at the level of the thorax may represent ribs. Geometrical motifs decorate its surface, including zigzag lines and depictions of human faces and hands. The arrangement resembles a totem pole for sure.

Scholars have proposed various theories about the carvings' meaning, such as a creation myth, a navigational aid or map, depiction of  mythological creatures or to serve as a warning not to enter a dangerous area.

Scholars also noted that the Shigir Idol's decoration was similar to that of the oldest known monumental stone ruins at  Göbekli Tepe. 

We should remember that if a piece is made of stone, it  may also have had parallels in wood. However, it would have probably failed to survive the millenia. However, if there are wooden totem poles in central Asia, it’s fair to assume that there could have been stone ones as well. It’s just that scientists should find more examples of these poles to be able to link it to Göbekli Tepe.

We know that, once there was an ice bridge between Siberia and Alaska across which people migrated to America. One of the Alaska tribes,Tlingit’s oral history describes their ancestors arriving by taking a risky trip through the "hole-in-the-ice". Another oral tradition describes the arrival of Tlingit descendants by boat. I guess both possible and could have happened.An earlier story mentions people living in Alaska already when the Tlingit population moved into the area.

The oldest dated settlement in Southeast Alaska is 10,000 BC towards the end of the last Ice Age. We now know that there were humans in America way before that, anywhere from 23,000 to possibly 26,000 years ago. So, it's still a mystery to resolve, when exactly these early ancestors have moved.In summary:

The oldest wooden totem pole found in Russia dates back to 12,000 years agoThe oldest stone totem/sculpture found in Southeast Turkey resembles the Russian wooden pole, dating back to 11, 600 years ago.

There is a long tradition of Northwest American indigenous people to erect totem poles for the deceased.Scientists agree that at least one function of the Göbekli Tepe ritual areas is a ritual for transition to death.We know that at least some ancestors of Northwest American tribes migrated from Asia.The question is, could the ancestors of Göbekli Tepe and Northwest American tribes share the same ancestors, i.e ancestors from Central Asia?

To prove this, we need more archeological evidence for the stone or wood pole erection practices in the migration routes as a practice to honor deceased. Also, we need burial practice similarities in Central Asia, Northwest America and Göbekli Tepe to prove the link for common ancestors. 

I really hope we will have professors of Archeology to consider this as a graduate study and assign this investigation to their master or PhD students, so we can lift the veils.

References:

“The Coast Indians of Southern Alaska and Northern British Columbia” by Albert Niblackhttps://bit.ly/4ciSVTy

Shigir Idol at Wikipedia- image source https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shigir_Idol“

“Human Migration Map”https://www.ipsnews.net/2018/03/map-human-migration

"The Göbekli Tepe Totem Pole” by Cigdem Koksal Schmidt & Klaus Schmidt https://bit.ly/4fuLj2L

From Albert Niblack's book, evolution of burial practices:

1- Haida column containing a box holding the ashes of the dead.

2- Haida totem  mortuary column with compartment for the remains of the dead in a box.

3- Two column support a box containing the body of the dead

4. Haida commemorative column erected in front of the house of the deceased , while the body is deposited some distance from it.

An animal predator above a human at Totem Heritage Center in Ketchikan, Alaska 

What would you like to be if or when you reincarnate?

Have you ever thought what would you like to be if or when you reincarnate? Sometimes I fantasize about it.

Nysa Library building

For example, I’d like to be a nymph in Nysa and live in a tree trunk. I’d like to soar above the olive trees and breath the fresh mountain breeze every morning. I’d like to play with fellow nymphs, lay on the grass and gaze the blue sky, or rest under the shade of the olive trees in hot summer days. I’d like raise baby Dionysos with other nymphs. I’d like to play hide and seek in the amphitheater, race tirelessly through the bridges and the mountain tops of Nysa. 

Antonines Fountain, Sagalassos

I’d like to be the water in Sagalassos. I’d like to descend to the earth as a snowflake in late fall, melting upon the ground, to join an underground stream only to re-surface once more.  I’d like to be  the morning dew in a summer morning,  reflecting the sun with all my being, to evaporate into the sky and return as rain. I’d like to flow lazily in hot summer days in the ancient river and cascade down in winter, but no matter what, I’d like to end up in Antonines fountain. 

Troya Ancient City

I’d like to be the wind in Troya. Not any kind of wind, the southernly wind that comes only a short period during summer. I’d like to be desperately longed for. When I come, I’d like to sweep through and through. I’d like to fill the sails northbound, tousling the hair of the mermaids, prompting mothers gather their kids close. I’d like to shift the clouds to the north so that when sailors catch the sight of me they hasten to their ships and start rowing towards North. 

Despite these fantasies, I know what I will be… I will to be the one that water can not wet, wind can not dry, fire can not burn. 

I will to be in this timeless time and spaceless space. There will be nothing to call an “I” but lack of a better word. There will be no body, no mind and no memory that I once had a body and a mind.  I will be weightless, not only physically but also mentally. Not only that there will be any thoughts, but also an incredible freedom of not having a mental presence, not even the slightest shadow of it, or even a single memory that a presence once was there. It will be as if none of this ever existed, as if this 14 billion years of existence was only a dream, but not even remembered. Only weightless freedom and presence of the “now”. There will only be an awareness of that freedom and the unfathomable peace that comes with it.

I’ll take the truth over any fantasy!

* This article is inspired by an NDE experience.

A 20th Anniversary Tribute- Part 3

2010-2015- A new Era of teaching at Grace Tree Yoga and Growth Studio 

A series of very fortunate events led me to become one of the first teachers at Grace Tree Yoga Studio in West Chester. I remember meeting with Renee Groeneman and Pam Painter, the founders, and the other teachers at Book Bum to get to know each other, discuss the vision and the mission of the school. I immediately felt drawn to the group. I knew Renee from yoga circles, especially because both of us were Kripalu trained teachers. Looking back, I realize how lucky I was and what a great Karma Renee and Pam had to start an institution like Grace Tree. I was honored to be part of it.

I started teaching at a temporary location for Grace Tree while they were renovating the building. I remember the paint smell and the bamboo floors being placed. I began teaching in the fall of 2010 as soon as the studio opened its doors. I taught a gentle yoga class every Thursday night at 7pm.  

For me it was always more than just the asanas, the postures; it was a way to share yogic teachings. I loved creating themes for my classes, like a 10-week-series I called “Path to Enlightenment”. This was “to shed any layers we don’t need anymore, bring out the Light within and be the change we want to see in the World.”   

The series culminated in an all-night event and a birthday celebration for the new age starting on Dec 21,2012 at Cincinnati Yoga School. Needless to say, I continued my connection to CYS and went to classes and events there too. Here I found a schedule of this 10-week series: 

  

Oct 11 Let go of anger  

Oct 18 Let go of worries  

Oct 25 Be grateful  

Nov 1 Claim the power  

Nov 8 Flexibility anytime anywhere  

Nov 15 Perfectly Balanced  

Nov 29 Power of giving: Generosity & service  

Dec 6 Opening doors: Mindfulness  

Dec 13 Calmness and reflections  

Dec 20 Compassionate heart  

Dec 21 Birthday Party  

 

I did different series to explore paths of yoga, and dedicated each class to one path, Bhakti Yoga, Karma Yoga, Jnana yoga, Raja Yoga. Whenever I did a series, I supported classes with readings and meditations as well as related yoga posture, like hearth opening postures for compassion, or grounding postures for dealing with worries.   

I did a series on Yama and Niyamas, again dedicating each class to one of these basic moral principles of yoga.  I also liked to celebrate different milestones, like celebrating Christmas with a 9 days of 12 Sun salutations, leading to a total of 108 by the 9th day, or a special Easter celebration by chanting Lords’ Payer in original Aramaic, or celebrating Samhain on Halloween. I also remember doing a series  to experience Elements thru yoga; practicing Earth through Asanas, Water through Vinyasa, Fire through Bandhas, Air through Pranayama and Space through Meditation. 

More important than the classes, it was the community of people who came together to share, learn and grow together. I’m eternally grateful for the friendships I developed at Grace Tree that last to this day.  

 

During this time, I religiously attended Pam's Friday morning classes, Roots, and I also enjoyed going to Saturday morning 8am Pranayama class with our dear late teacher friend Suman. When Suman started offering Qi Gong, I was there too.  

 

 

This was also an era I started teaching meditation at P&G. It all started meeting with Andrea Berger, a dedicated practitioner at work in 2008. It was all her energy and dedication. It was an uphill battle at first, we were not allowed to advertise our sessions but HR allowed this to be a word-of-mouth thing, which I was grateful. When I started to work at downtown, I started lunch time meditation classes at the P&G gym. Thanks to Annie Wiesbrod, later on this small seed turned to a mindfulness movement. I also led a Sunday morning 10 am meditation gathering at Grace Tree in these early years. 

Erich Shiffman, Leslie Kaminoff, Stephen Cope were some of the legacies I met and trained at this time. 

 

 

2015-2020 Time to be a student again  

I taught my yoga class the evening I was diagnosed with breast cancer in early 2015. In retrospect, I regret not cancelling the class that night as I wasn’t physically or emotionally well due a difficult biopsy. I wasn’t at the right space but my dedication to teaching overruled. I still think it would have been much better for students if I cancelled the class that night.  

  

It was also an auspicious week that one of my class series was ending during that time and the last class theme was to “Surrender”. I was literally tested with my own teachings, LOL.   

  

I quit teaching when I started traveling that fall and  embarked on a spiritual pilgrimage to India with Ananda (the details of this fantastic trip is covered in another article).   

Even though I was not supposed to exercise for 6 weeks,  I started a chair yoga class at Grace Tree a week after my surgery (don’t do this before you consult with your doctor). I attempted this because I knew what I should and should not do with my body. To this day, I’m grateful to that chair yoga class which immensely helped me to return to my regular practice. Yoga became my anchor in healing. I remember attempting to go to a Thursday night class at 7 pm, my regular teaching time as a student, and crying at the stairs with my yoga mat in my hand. I wasn't ready for it yet. 

Even though I stopped teaching, my ties to Grace Tree persisted. I continued attending classes with my dear yoga teacher friends.  I continued getting monthly memberships and attended especially Pam’s Friday morning yoga class until she moved out to Colorado. The group of friends whom I took the classes with, later evolved into Radiant Roots group which we still meet regularly today. When Pam moved, I started taking Britney’s Saturday morning class and Jill’s Sunday morning classes.  

Grace Tree allowed me to teach different workshops. Honestly, they made me feel like it’s home and I can teach whatever I want. I’m eternally grateful for this!!!  I taught workshops on Holistic Living/Holistic Healing with my partner and dear friend Antonia, I taught EFT, Simplicity, Gratitude, Key to Happiness workshops, solo or with Antonia. I also invited other teacher friends to give talks and workshops there.   

 

 

During this time a 10-month Tantric Deities workshop with Becky Morissey and various talks and workshops with sweet Lila Lolling stood out for me.  

  

I enjoyed attending Vijnana Bhairava Tantra teachings with my dear friend Sundar, for 3 years. These are meditations and contemplations as Shiva’s answers to Devi in 112 different ways of “realizing the true self”. I also continued Rupert Spira and Mooji’s meditations as well as Upanishad readings with Bora Ercan. Ananda teachers Nirmala and  Dharmadas graced us with their presence here in Midwest with retreats every year. 

When Covid hit in 2020, all classes moved online but I was able to practice weekend classes from the comfort of my home. 

 

2021 on- Self practice and where Advaita meets Tantra  

I’d think I’d go to more yoga classes when I retire or even start teaching again but something completely opposite happened. Not only that I completely lost interest in teaching yoga, I didn't want to go classes anymore either. The idea of a weekly class seemed like a big commitment to me. This may be due to overcommitted 33 years of career and I didn't want to put myself into any kind of commitment anymore. At least I praise myself for doing what feels like the right thing to do and not doing anything out of necessity or ego. Instead, I discovered a daily home practice.  

 

Yes, I need to confess. I didn’t have a regular home practice before. I always admired Defne Suman, a Turkish yoga teacher, when she talked about her regular home practice and wondered if one day I will have one too. For years I had a busy work schedule and a family to care, I had to leave home before 7 am and come back at 5pm, and when I had time for a class, I preferred to take a class to be with the sangha, the community. My personal practice was either meditation or devotional sun salutations. Something very interesting happened that I never guessed: Since early 2022, I love my own daily practice so much so that I don’t want to go to a class anymore. I practice early in the morning, every single morning, including weekends. I burn an incense and select a soft music to go with my practice. I have a balanced asana practice with warm ups, stretches, some power poses, balance poses, inversions and  twists. I cherish the freedom to add poses or modify my practice based on my needs.  One thing that doesn't change is when I am on the mat, I am present. I only attend my body, different sensations, resistance when that happens, acceptance and surrendering to whatever comes, just like life itself. I try to flow through it; align with it, try not to show resistance and surrender.

I rediscover life every day at my own mat, with my yoga practice.

 

    

In last few years, I discovered Hareesh (Christopher Wallis) and took couple workshops with him on Tantra. I’ve always kept an arm length distance to Tantra until I discovered Hareesh and Shaivism. This is where I think Advaita, which attracted me all along, met with Tantra and a convergence took place that resonated with me.   

A new friend asked me what is my yoga practice and I found myself describing what yoga means to me: My yoga practice has become a practice of non-duality, it’s a practice that leads me to let go of attachments or desires and finding contentment with what I have. It’s about flowing through life. No big expectations, nothing to learn, nothing to achieve but just embracing life. If there is one mantra I meditate on these days; it is:

Chaitanyam aatma  

Consciousness is the Self.